This is a problem for me – it’s a busy time of year and I can very easily feel overwhelmed by my obligations and responsibilities, even ones that I’m looking forward to with people I love.
I have to remember that it’s ok to need quiet time and it’s ok to feel overwhelmed. It’s been really useful to recognize this in myself and ask for space – before that I would start feeling crushed by the planning and stress and I’d lash out at partners and friends in the way shown in this comic. Now I recognize when I’m starting to feel squeezed and I know to say ‘I’m really not up for making these kinds of plans now, can we talk about this later?’
I am really looking forward to having a nice quiet weekend next week.
Except don’t forget you’re going on on Friday to a show.
Oh, yeah. That should be fun.
Except don’t forget you’re going on on Friday
to a show. And Saturday’s kind of messed up cut mz is
going to be out of town for a few hours. Hey! Do you
want to come to a conference this weekend? And
Sunday is when everyone’s going to the exhibition.
Are we still on for dinner on Tuesday? You’re coming
over tomorrow, right? Next weekend we planned to
check out Flameout and then we need to start thinking
about the Solstice party. What are our family plans for
Christmas? Hey, I haven’t heard back from you on that
collaboration we’re supposed to work on. Are you
available for some more contract work ASAP?
Hey, next weekend there’s a show that I –
Can we NOT talk about this right fucking now?
Um..yeah, no problem, I’ll check in with you later.
Perfect, another thing you’ve fucked up, just because
you can’t handle a few plans without getting stressed
and anxious like the loser you are. It’s only a matter of
time before everyone gets sick of your bullshit attitude
and then you’ll end up alone, all because you can’t pull
yourself together, always screwing everything up,
fucking up every good thing you have like you always do,
worthless, useless, screwup that you are, you deserve …